Every once in a while, an opportunity comes along that tests my willingness to step out of my comfort zone. A few years ago, I ventured on my first solo trip to meet my bestie on the Outer Banks in North Carolina. I calmed threatening nerves and negative thoughts with affirmations and careful preparation. I not only survived, but my confidence also soared.
The following year, I shocked my daughter by suggesting we visit Rome and then cruise to Greece, Turkey, and Sicily. The decision required faith, courage, and nearly a year of planning. My sister-in-law decided to join us and made arrangements with an amazing travel agent. Wow! What a trip! The memorable experience made me even more eager to say yes to another adventure.
Recently, I was invited to expand my horizons in a new way. My hand trembled over the keyboard as I read an email inviting me to do an in-house interview with Authors Edge, a radio show dedicated to highlighting authors and the stories behind their work. Apparently, my self-confidence hadn’t quite calmed my anxiety about spontaneously speaking about my writing.
My first inclination was to politely decline the offer. The thought of being interviewed in-person freaked me out. As a writer, I can draft a response, rely on my thesaurus for descriptions, use my critique groups to fine-tune a chapter, and feel secure before I hit send.
I sat looking at my laptop, trying to create a thoughtful rejection to the generous offer. The only truthful excuse was fear. How lame was that? What happened to all my late-in-life gun-ho “I can do this” self-talk? What was I afraid of? Doing something I’ve never done? Making a fool of myself? Possibly selling more books? Fear of making a fool of myself? Nailed it.
I sucked in a deep breath and started typing. I’d be honored to do the interview. The host had offered a few dates from which to choose. I selected the first available recording session because I work best with deadlines—especially if it’s close.
For the next few weeks, I convinced myself I could do this. I created a list of anticipated questions and did what writers do best. I wrote out what I hoped would come out of my mouth if asked. Instead of envisioning myself as failing, I pictured myself answering with confidence, at least a fake-it-till-you-make-it effort.
I’m proud to share the resulting interview.
I’m curious. What is your biggest fear? What takes courage for you to step outside the lines? I’d love to hear from you!
Writing Silver Linings 